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Twinning with Mother: When Mommy and Baby Go Gaga Matching their Dresses
No matter how much the world emphasises these patterns --- daddyâs girl and mommaâs boy, the fact remains that regardless of the genders, babies share an indispensable bond with their mothers.
In fact, girls who are attached too much to the mother, always have the edge to copy her style statement too. And, here begins the game of âTwinning with Mommyâ.
But, the world order is changing now and boys are nowhere behind in following this trend -- all thanks to our creative dress designers and thought leaders in the industry â boys have no less a chance to do that now.
Â This entire concept of twinning with mother has picked up pace this year. Mothers have never been short of fulfilling the needs of their children and walking the extra mile to ensure a fun-filled life. The more care and affection a mother provides to her little one, the higher is her level of satisfaction and joy.Â Â
With all the salutations to the efforts each mother makes towards carving a beautiful life for the little one, we have put together a team of our best designers to create opportunities for each mommy to receive all the happiness and joy she deserves in return.Â
Our âTwinning with Motherâ range of dresses is not a mere addition to our product catalogue. It is rather, a testimony of the value we hold for mothers and their impeccable relationship with their children which is loaded with emotions, fun, struggles and beauty!
Here are some quick reasons why Twinning with Mother is so much fun:
Get a chance to rev up your selfies with your little one. When you match a dress with him or her, it adds to your image value and creates a perfect Motherâs Day memory.
2. Mom and Baby Swagger Â Â Â
Your dressing is the biggest teller of your style statement. Your matching dress with your little one shows your thought process and seriousness about your dual swagger.
3. Ready Dresses for Events
When you have the dress sets ready in your wardrobe, you are always prepared well for a weekend party. You never have to spend a sleepless night thinking how to ensure you and your little look the best the next day at the event.
4. Feel Good for your kid
For a child, her parents are the biggest role models. They have a tendency to copy the parents the moment. While girls try to follow momâs make up, boys wear her big shoes
We also asked many moms about their views on the Twinning and we have collated them here for you all to read:
@TheDelhiBahu:I love twinning with my son. It can be me twinning or my husband twinning, but the happiness on his face is priceless. I feel more than us, it is him who feels the connect or experience a feeling of belonging when he sees me or my husband matching him. A very recent example being, we were getting ready for a Pooja at our home and my son (in past) had given me a SUPER hard time trying to make him wear ethnic. So this time too I was hoping a full 10 on 10 tantrum from him while making him wear a cotton chikan kurta pajama. The outfits of my son and my husband were exactly same (prepared specifically for this occasion). So as soon as he started showing signs of reluctance to wear ethnic, I pointed to him at his fatherâs dress. He did NOT say a single word, wore it and was HAPPY to have worn something exactly same as his dad. I couldnât believe my eyes. This child who wouldnât wear a kurta for even 15 minutes otherwise wore it throughout the function and enjoyed himself. So yes I personally feel twinning is not just a fashion statement, it sometimes is more for the child than us.
@Aakanksha VohraÂ Twinning does makes some beautiful memories.. When my son was born in September last year my daughter who has turned 5 just then felt a little left out although we made sure she is included in everything but then it wasn't possible in everything. So when we were planning a grand Lohri celebration for my new born I was worried that she may not feel left out so I bought twinning colour dresses for both of us. Although I didn't want to wear that colour but to make her feel special I decided to twin and the pride on her face that day was unmatched. So twinning is not just a fashion statement but it has an emotional quotient too.
@Dishagautamb: Twinning with my munchkins like living your childhood with your kid. I LOVE buying same dresses for me and my daughter. I have a son and daughter. Shopping for my son was super boring and twinning with him was limited to tshirts. Now with my daughter I experiment with everything Tshirts, dresses, gowns , Indian dresses and shoes too. Itâs a feeling of pride for me. Now twinning for us means my son and my husband, and me and my daughter. Life is too short. Live it with love, make small thing's special and find happiness in them. We as parents need to inculcate the habit of loving every moment of life instead of always crying for what we donât have. âTWINNING IS JUST A WAY TO TEACH THEM HOW THINGS CAN BECOME SIMPLE IF WE ALL LIVE AND UNDERSTAND THINGS TOGETHER.â
Â @Cute_lil_udyan: Everyone loves twinning with kidsÂ and so do I. But along with the clothes, we should also twin in different ways. We all know that the kids always like and enjoy copying the elders or specially the parents. Be it lifestyle or eating habits or anything and everything for that matter, so why not take this to our advantage and twin ourÂ habits and values with our children along with the outfits. So yeaahh. Letâs twin reading habits, twin healthy eating habits, twin the good values along with Twinning with clothes. We canât teach them. They do what they see. So it all starts from us and this is how the twinning game will be on point and we can proudly say âTWINNING WINNINGâ
Â @Aishwarya.sandeep: Yes I do love twinning with my son. Though we do not have any specific mom-son outfits but on occasions we do share the same color combination. I generally let my son select his outfits as I believe that is the easiest way to teach them about decision making. At times I also end up wearing clothes that he selects. Sometimes he does lend me his cartoon t-shirts...
Â @Shruti Mittal: I love twinning with my twinsÂ
@Nida Sutariya:Â Experiencing a life with toddler - twinning is something which happens not just in clothes but everything. Same glasses, same colour watch, sometimes even socks, gosh- itâs amazing to do it as the excitement amongst the child to dress up, look like either of parents makes them feel full of happiness and esp. when others appreciate or comment it makes my son feel as if he has received an award. Twinning for me, my husband and our 3.5 year old is all about matching moods. While itâs about bonding and having the feel of being together. Twinning for us is also to scan us - especially to unknown places. I teach my son to remember what colour and pattern we are wearing so that if we tend to get lost he can quickly recognize in the crowd. So with fun, bond and sense of belongingness, twinning for us also becomes âsignâ at unknown places.
@Lilstarmom: You call it crazy? I call it one of the fun parts of motherhood, a little bonding between moms and their little champs. And one of my favourite instagram page @namefame.in launch twinning outfits.
@Everylittlething.happiness:Â I think twinning is a great way of bonding since my girls can see their sibling wear the same dress and enjoy dressing up together. It has also made my life simpler.Â Because I don't have to keep looking for different clothes for both of them .It's a little struggle too because we usually don't get same clothes for the age range hence I have to really go to different places (online and offline) to get the same dresses.I truly believe that twinning clothes will curb any kind of complex among siblings as there is nothing to compare in terms of clothes at least.
@Stepup.mommy: I love twininng not because it looks cool but it inculcates the feeling of belongingness. We all believe that giving birth to a baby is like watching your heart walking outside your body and when we Twin, Its an overwhelming feeling as we both are just one and in twinning moment, it again feels one. I wish I could twin with him every single day and my son definitely loves Twinning and I can see glow in his eyes when I or my husband twins with him.
Â @Momy_hood:Â I like twinning!!! Somehow this makes our bond stronger. I give extra time while selectingÂ her clothes, making faces, taking pictures. These will be memorable moments, maybe we will see all pictures after 10 years and giggle together.
Co-sleep with your baby - When cot becomes extended Bed
As part of our research, we talked to more than 20 moms to understand their views about the Co-sleep or cot-sleep for the baby. Without any doubt, most of the moms recommended Co-sleep with few exceptions and those moms who encourage the cot sleep has their own reasons to say so and they are definitely the valid ones too. Being a mom, its individual choice and everyone is absolutely correct as moms know the best for their baby. However, as we learn from each other experience, we thought of sharing their views with you and also, one of our own recommendation where you can co sleep with the baby even when the baby is in the cot.Â
Moms who recommended the co-sleep have talked about warmth you get when you sleep with your baby, the advantage of the body touch and many more points which you can read below as we have tagged the moms with thwir comments.Â
Moms who recommended the cot sleep mainly talks about safety of the baby.
Well, being a mom myself, I have gone through these dilemmas when my baby was born. My instincts always told me to stay with my baby all night and it was difficult for me to imagine to make him sleep in a cot away from me. So, we came up with this amazing solution and you donât need to buy any specific cot for the same.
Just take your regular cot, put one side of the cot down and connect with your bed. Other side of the cot should be the wall. You can get some reference from the pic below.
The advantage of doing this:
- You are sleeping next to baby and you can always hug your baby, pick him up without even moving if the baby feel uncomfortable.
- If you are not using the attached cot and you want to co-sleep with your baby, you have to make sure that the baby sleeps between mom and dad. So, that the baby does not fall from the bed. However, if you do it, you are losing on husband-wife time ;) Being a mom, you would hardly get quality time with your husband and if baby sleeps between you, you have to put pillows around the baby too. So. That your husband does not hurt the baby at night. My husband forgets everything in sleep, so I had to be very cautious.
Now, when I decided to do this. I felt great about this idea and most of my friends followed this. The other issue which came up with this was to get the baby bedding. So, Now, I had to get the complete set, though I only needed one side bumper. Namefame come to our rescue and we got the bedding which was the right fit for the extended bed arrangements. Now, they are only selling bedding with one side bumper to encourage co-sleep and at the same time, making sure baby is safe and husband-wife get their own sweet timeJ
We have listed views of different moms. Please do go through them and then make a choice for yourself. As a mom, you know the best for your baby. Follow your intuitions and have a healthy baby. All the very best in your journey and I am very thankful to the moms who shared their views with me. So, I could collate them for everyone to read.
@nira_3105: Sleeping close to your baby itself is a very satisfying feeling. After all, who doesn't like to cuddle up that little bundle of joy all night long. But I have always preferred cot-sleeping for my baby. I felt that he also needs some space of his own, that's comfortable and cozy. My son sleeps in baby-cot from the day we arrived from hospital. Somebody even told me that if you make him habit of baby-cot he will not sleep anywhere else. And frankly, I actually never faced this problem with my baby. In co-sleeping we constantly need to be very cautious with our movements or in that case our snoring also(we all snore, you agree or not). I am not at all against the thought of co-sleeping with baby. It's just that comfortable and peaceful sleep is more important for both baby and parents. Sometimes we also follow co-sleeping with baby. Like he is unwell or wakes up in the middle of the night crying loud, we prefer making him sleep with us in bed. In my opinion, you can't judge between co-sleeping or cot-sleeping. In a city like Mumbai, space constraint is also one of the factor people opt for co-sleeping. So, it's basically a personal choice of every parent basis surrounding factors.Â
@Dishagautamb: "The world is in your arms when you co sleep with your new love"... its only few initial years when your kid wants you all the time just be with them and feel the warmth , the love , the cosyness , the happiness you get when you co sleep... In hindi everyone says " sukun ki neend"Â is what co sleep is all about.
@Momy_hood:Â I prefer co sleep with my baby!! Waking up at nightÂ kissing to her forehead, she always search me for cuddle.this feeling can't be described.Â
@mama_and_arjun: Co-sleepingÂ v/s Crib sleeping : So, what I feel & experienced is that co-sleeping is the best sleeping way with your bundle of joy . One of the advantages is that,Â emotional availability is the most important factor towards healthy development .This means being sensitive to your baby's cue & responding appropriately. Also, for breastfeeding moms,co-sleeping is very helpful & comforting.Â Another co-sleeping advantage is ,it has been attributed to better emotional health of child . When the baby feels that someone is near to him, he feels secure & comfortable. Also, co-sleeping teaches a child ,their needs will be more quickly met & more nurturing environment he gets !
PS- Upto a certain age, co-sleeping is the best according to me, But by the time when your baby is big enough to Express his needs & requirements clearly you can start crib sleeping practice for let him independent emotionally!
@Mommy_modeon:Â Iâm a mother of a five year old and my baby. My baby is a Co sleeper,as I feel he doesnât have a sleep schedule.Moreover I believe if baby sleeps with the mother it helps in maintaining body temperature. Co sleeping helps babies to âbreathe more regularly,use energy more efficiently,grow faster and experience less stressâ. Mothers who are not breastfeeding, can keep pillows between you and the baby just comfortable sleeping position.
@Kinjal_kriti:Â I prefer Co- sleeps. the main reason is breastfeeding during night time is very easier. there is no need to wake up n get up from the bed n go the baby fo feed or comfort her. and several feelings such the warm touch of the mother her movement, her smell n comfort that would help in overall development . not only the mothers bt also the father will enjoy co-sleeping with their children , as it leads to a great bonding time. it will be a great feeling to wake up next to smiling n beautiful baby.
@ThePHDBaby:Â Though it was adviced by doctors to never co-sleep since it increases the chances of suffocating the baby, I personally never put her away in a cot. As an Indian mom, it came somewhat naturally to me to feed the baby and put her near me in bed. I was the most careful in her first two years and by God's grace the mom radar was so strong that a minor hiccup woke me up. So I constantly kept a tab on her while she slept . I personally advocate co-sleeping since it keeps the baby close to your touch.But extra caution has to be taken and a bit of sleep sacrificed.It is helpful to take separate blankets and use bed dividers and avoid any soft toys or pillows which could suffocate the child
@Wearing mommyhood:Â Throughout my pregnancy, I was 100% sure that I am gonna buy a separate cot for my little one. After all, it has so many benefits like Independence, more hygiene, less accidents etc. But somehow, we couldn't buy it due to various reasons. And we ended up co-sleeping with the baby from day 1. We couldn't sleep properly for a few days initially as we were extremely worried of rolling on to him but later on we enjoyed a lot..It made breastfeeding easy for me as I fed him in side lying position. Soo
Soon, he started sleeping on my arm or my husband's chest which definitely destresses us both..We have definitely built a strong bond over sleeping which is cherishable forever..When he was 3 months old, he stopped crying in the night for feed and used to kick me instead. This reduced the extent of crying in a great way and soon his night schedule was in place in 3 months.. I saved on so much of my sleep due to this..As an added advantage, we saved some good money too..What worked for us may notÂ What worked for us may not work for rest of the parents, so I suggest to choose wisely.
@Vihu_n_mumma : Every new mothers face this situation...what's good for baby??? Cot Sleep or Co sleep!!!!! Basically what I prefer is Co-Sleeping. I have tried crib for 4-5 days as people said to me that baby might get harm while sleeping with you, baby would not get enough sleep on bed blah blah...but what I feel is my baby is having peaceful and good sleep while she sleep with me.
Â Here are some benifits of Co-Sleeping.
- Co-Sleeping with baby made breastfeeding easier as baby is sleeping in a same bed so mother can feed him/her when needed.Â
- As mother is sleeping with baby throughout the night and taking care of her will develop a sense of trust in baby.
- It also reduce mothers stress and gives her peaceful sleep.
Â But there are some points that you have to follow while co sleeping with your baby.
- Never sleep with a baby when you are drunk or if you have taken any drug.
- Don't put extra cushions or soft toys on a bed when you are sleeping with baby.
- Material of mattress Nd bedsheets will be soft and comfortable for baby.
- Use separate baby blanket for baby.
Â @Richa Rai Sood: Â Co sleeping is best because night feeds become easy nd it gives mother's warmth to baby as well. My 6 years old son nd 3 months old daughter co sleeps with me.
@Garima Mishra DwivediÂ Without any doubt co sleeping is the best as u wud fastly recognize if baby feels any discomfort n also gv baby needed warmth from mother.
@Poorva NileshÂ Co sleeping of course...i cannot imagine waking up and going to another room after every hour. It will definitely cause more exertion ... Co sleeping gives you some comfort
@Princy GuptaÂ Co sleeping without any doubtÂ
@Khushboo Ojha ShuklaÂ In a day time while u busy wd household chores cot sleeping and in night co sleepingÂ
@Naghma AfsarÂ Lot of researches done in western countries suggest that cot sleep is better for child's personality development but in our culture co sleeping is what we have been following since ages and does not really affect kids negatively. My view is co sleep isÂ best for both child and parent(s). You don't have to run every now and then to check your kid and kids also have more comfortable and safe sleep. This strengthens the bond of kids and parents as a family.
@Ramya KarthikÂ Co sleep, makes nursing easier, calms my nerves down and hassle free, baby sleeps wherever I sleep, even during trips and travels!Â
@Anjum FatimaÂ My baby sleep in his crib which is beside my bed and the railing is removed .. he always sleep like that so he is right beside me but in his crib but sleeps on my handÂ
Word from mommies to new mommies
We all agree that motherhood is a very special journey. We all listen to the wonderful experiences and the beauty of it. No wonder, it is the most beautiful thing one can experience in the life. Giving birth to child is not less than a miracle.
Â The way we say that marriage is beautiful but it comes with its own share of responsibilities and adjustments. Similarly, motherhood is beautiful but letâs not treat it as a fairy tale. Itâs always better to know the reality and be prepared for it. I have not seen any mom who would not have said âItâs the most beautiful experience and I cried at nights when I felt itâs too much for me to handleâ
Â Yes, moms do experience the breakdowns mainly when they are alone at night. When they do not get the proper sleep. Itâs ok to cry and experience that this is too much of a responsibility for you. In no way, we feel that this blog can help you prepare for the motherhood journey and believe me, nothing can J but when you will experience the lows, you will remember how other moms also felt the same and you will feel good about it. You will know that you are not the only one who is experiencing this and itâs enough for us to feel lighter. We all sail in the same boat.
Â So, here are the snippets from the experienced moms, who are willing to share the journey and their experience with the new mommies.
@Dishagautamb: All the new Mommy's out there, First of all congratulations for your bundle of joy. My advice to you all would be âwhen in doubt, just go with your instinctsâ. You are the Mother and you are the best. No one in world can think better than you do for your child. Post pregnancy is a tedious job, sleepless nights, frequent diaper change sessions, always thinking about how to increase milk flow , managing yourself, baby and house. Just be positive and go with the flow. Enjoy every moment with your new love. Just remember one things âWork and Time will never stop but your kid will grow up and you will say, oh my God, Time Fliesâ.
@nira_3105: Sleep deprivation comes as part and parcel of motherhood. We all have been warned about sleepless nights, but no one has helped us with the solution. Here, I want to help new mommies in gettingÂ better sleep for both of them. Once your baby is a month old and gaining sufficient weight, make him a habit of sleeping longer in nights (5-6 hours at least, at a stretch). Calm and peaceful sleep helps in baby's development. Just before your bedtime, give oil massage to your baby's legs for 5 minutes and rub little ghee on baby's feet. If possible, also recite Gayatri Mantra or Ramraksha while making him sleep.Â
This worked for me like wonders and first night itself my baby slept for good 7 hours. Ultimately I started getting better sleep and was fresh throughout the day.Â
Hope you all new mommies find this advice useful. All the best from for this beautiful journey called "motherhood".
@ns_neeta: I am a dentist and I want to write on a topic that is not frequently discussed, âTeeth Care for Babiesâ. Being a dentist and a new mother, I would really want all the other mothers out there to understand and care for their childâs teeth. I truly hope that this help in educating them on how to take care of baby teeth.
When it comes to infant tooth care, I often hear my patients say âthey are just baby teethâ. Being a dentistÂ I can say that baby teeth requires baby care.
Typically, the first tooth eruption happens at 6-12 months. The baby teeth aka âprimary teethâ isÂ embedded in the gums from birth hence teeth/gum care should start ideally start once the baby is born. My journey of tooth care of my DD started right from when her teeth were un-erupted. Below is the teethÂ
care routine I follow.
Teeth Care Routine
From 0-6 months: Make it a point to frequently massage the gums with a clean wash cloth/ gauze after every feed.Â This gives the gums a soothing feeling and trains the child in early brushing.
From 6-12 months: Once the first tooth has erupted, switch to a soft bristled finger brush which is to be used inÂ circular motions for brushing the teeth. The finger brush I used for my daughter is from Fischer Price.
From 12-24 months: After the four teeth in the front of the mouth have erupted, a brush recommended for 1-year-olds can be used. Brushing technique should be in circular motions. I used the Chicco toothbrush for myÂ daughter.
From 36 months onwards: Now is the time to start using toothpaste. A toothpaste containing fluoride is to be used in peaÂ size amount. Kids should be encouraged to brush their teeth twice a day.
Proper teeth care and brushing techniques leads to decay free teeth and hence a happy childhood.
@ThePhdbaby: The best lesson which pregnancy and parenting has taught me is the Importance of self-care. Through all the life changing moments what you need the most is a fit and healthy body. It is really critical to strike a balance between self-Care and family-care. My advice to moms to be and new moms is to take care of their bodies. To work towards nutrition and fitness because more than anybody you need fitness in this new demanding phase. Good food and self-care can counter the exhaustion and slowing of metabolism and really work to keep you happy. Don't run after the numbers on the weighing scale, work towards a stronger inside. Health is the fuel which jump-starts motherhood and carries the wagon ahead!
@Shanayaasoni: To all the new momâs out there, congratulations on this new life as mom. There would be times when you would doubt yourself because a lot of people are out there trying to make you believe that what you are doing is not right and would bombard you with lots of myths. But always remember that you are doing a great job and can do nothing wrong for your little baby. When in doubt, follow your instinct.
@mama_and_arjun: It is difficult to give the suggestions but we all learn with our ups and downs. When, I was a first time mum & was absolutely clueless about doâs and donâts in pregnancy. Then I came to know about the book written by @rujuta.diwekar .The way she has described every single thing be it, diet, health, myths, truths about pregnancy, she covered everything in a single book. The best part about the book is that she advocates simple, local food. She doesnât advice you fancy diet, and her hilarious way of writing gives you smile on your face. If you are preparing for pregnancy, are pregnant or have just delivered, Pregnancy Notes has got you covered. Rujuta Diwekar takes you through the journey, with tips for even before you get pregnant, till after you deliver your bundle of joy. Each stage includes notes on food, exercise and recovery. Also included are heritage recipes from across the country, so you can mine the wisdom of our grandmothers. This is a must-have guide for every woman.
@wearingmommyhood:Â To all the new mommies out there, be proud that you have just brought a new life into this world. We all want to look good, stay fit but please don't just straight away jump onto dieting. Please understand that, it is very important to eat nutrient rich food and fats to an extent for adequate milk production (if you are breastfeeding). So please wait till the baby is 6 months old and then start with any kind of diet. It's better if you wait till the baby turns 1 year. Breastfeeding by itself burns many calories which in turn helps inÂ weightloss. New mommies normally struggle to find the ways of milk production and when you goodle, you find many ways but you are never sure which one will work. So, I can list few ways for you from my experience here. Some of the foods that help in boosting milk production are garlic, oats, fennel seeds, fenugreek seeds, foxnuts, sago, papaya. Most importantly, drink plenty of water, as water is the major contributor for milk production. A glass of water before and after each feed helps you stay hydrated. If you make sure you don't put on excessive weight, it will be very easy to reduce considerable amount of pregnancy weight within 1 year.
If you did not get the chance to share your exeperience in the blog. Please feel free to share in the comment section below.Â
Personal view by one of our editor:Â
Every day we hear people suggesting if a lady should join back work after having baby or she should stay back homes. I have heard old ladies(Grandmas) suggesting that the lady should work and I have also seen young women, saying a lady should leave the job for few years to raise the kid better.
Hence, mix views from all the age groups. In this blog, I am not even trying to reach any conclusion about whatâs right and whatâs wrong. All, I am trying to do is putting forward the working mom view and her dilemmas.
The story of a working mom does not start after she becomes a mother. It starts with her childhood. In older times, it was different, when the girl was born, she was taught to take care of the family, her husband and she was raised with a mindset that eventually, she will be raising the kids and taking care of the family. But things were different for the millennial generation and the girls of this generation were raised to be independent and to be strong. I remember when I was a kid, the only thing my dad wished for me was to study well and become someone like an IAS. I was never asked to cook food at home or clean the home. Itâs not that I was not expected to work at all. I was asked to bring vegetables from the market, get medicines from the family doctor and even take my grandfather to the doctor. When relatives would ask me if I could cook something, my dad would say âShe does not need to. She needs to study and achieve her dreams.â
Now, imagine growing up with these expectations and growing up in the environment where all you heard was career and being financial independent and eventually, reaching a point in life, where you have to choose between raising kids and your career. Our minds are not wired to take these decisions, we never thought that we will ever need to take this decision. We never realized that raising kids is part of our life too. After school and college, we were busy establishing our career, deciding the career path that we even got late in getting married (as per society standards).
After getting married, there was no hurry for kids as we were still focusing on the career but society kept reminding that the biological clock is running and itâs high time to plan. So, eventually, a baby is born.
Itâs very difficult to imagine how you would feel after you had a baby and it was easy to say earlier that we will continue the work even after having the baby. Things change when the baby is born and you start spending time with that little bundle of joy.
Itâs not easy and itâs never going to be easy to leave the kid at home and come to work. But this is the moment when you remember your childhood, your parents expectations, your dreams, the nights you were awake to get distinctions, the time you were thriving to get A grades, the competition spirit, the wish to stay financially independent and here comes a new life who needs you every single minute. Itâs the time when you have to make the choice and itâs not the easy one.
Moms who decided to be stay at home mom have taken the right decision and moms who decided to continue with the work have also taken the right decision. The only thing we need to remember is just appreciate your decision and never doubt it. Never let people tell you if this is right or wrong. If you know you canât be a happy mom if you stay at home, itâs better to do the work and spend quality time with the kid. Similarly, if you are not happy working, itâs better to give the maximum time to the little bundle of joy and your sunshine.
Now, if we take the decision to continue with the career, itâs our choice and it will come with its own share of adjustments and compromises. As itâs said, you canât have it all.
Being a working mom:
- You might not have ample amount of time with your kid but you can have quality time. You might be tired when you reach home but that smile can rejuvenate your energy and you are back on track.
- You might have to compromise on your âMe timeâ but thatâs worth it. You might start talking to your sleeping kid as well but thatâs ok.
- Many people will say different things but always remember they are not the ones to decide how you need to lead your life.
- You might feel the guilt of leaving the kid at home but do remember that if the baby is with your mom or mom in law, the baby is in safe hands and you are doing the best you can to make sure he is safe. No comments on leaving the babies in day care. If I had to do that, I donât know if I could do it.
- Having a baby change your equation with your husband a bit and especially, when you are working. Imagine, you are not able to give enough time to the baby. How can you give enough time to your husband? You not only struggle to strike the balance between work and baby. Itâs actually the balance among work, baby, husband, relatives, in laws and friends.
- I intentionally did not talk about the home chores like cooking food, cleaning and all as if you are working, I am sure you can get a help at home to do this. Mommies, you are already a super mom, share the work which you can and imagine, you are also empowering other woman who is working at your home and earning the bread and education for her kids with the money you pay.
There are different perceptions, views and theories for mommies. Listen to the one which you like and which makes you happy. The one which goes with your ideology and remember itâs impossible to make everyone happy. Do your best and remember you are the one your kids look up to. Make sure you are happy doing what you do and you are setting an example which you want to set for your kid.
We all go through enough every day and itâs same for men and women. So, letâs be nice and gentle to the people around us and pass your help wherever you can.
Happy moms raise happy kids. Make sure you are happy. If you are not, take steps which make you happy.